- Search the internet
- Ask questions and talk to people
- Consult a TCN Celebrant and other funeral providers
- Compare funeral costs
- Investigate funeral plans vs funeral insurance
- Establish the legal fees
- Attend Dying to Know Day activities
Leave written instructions about your preferences for:
- Burial or Cremation
- A civil or religious service
- Where your remains are to be placed
- The style of funeral or memorial you want
- Organ donation
Complete important legal documents:
- Power of Attorney - finances and property
- Guardianship (Living Will) and directions for your health care
- Will - distributes your finances and property after your death
Important information such as bank account information, website passwords etc may need to be held more confidentially.
Decide who you want to make decisions for you
- if you could not do so for yourself.
Usually this is your next-of-kin or you may appoint a guardian. Discuss your health care directives with this person, or arrange for someone independent, like your doctor or solicitor, to do so with you.
Let your family know:
- Your solicitor’s and accountant’s details
- The location of your will
- Your funeral insurer if applicable
- Your insurance /superannuation providers
Record your life story
Leave a written summary of your personal details, your life history, events and interests – because is it hard for loved ones to remember facts when they are grieving. It is also a gift you give to future generations and others, as no one else knows your story as well as you.
Give your family permission to have a farewell ceremony of their choice
Family and close friends’ situations may have changed since you documented your wishes. You can be clear about non-negotiable aspects of your death.
However, it is recommended to give your loved ones the flexibility in how they organise their farewell to you in the way that suits them best.
People with strong religious beliefs may choose to have the religious funeral rites at a place of worship or immediate family may choose private viewing or chapel time together. A separate Memorial service for the wider circle of friends and community members then may be held later.
Independent TCN celebrants will work closely with the family to provide the style of ceremony suitable for all those in attendance while respecting the wishes of the deceased.
TCN celebrants will provide services at any venue – crematorium, funeral home, private home, hospital or private chapel, community hall, park or bushland – provided they have the permission of the owners and relevant authorities. They will also give additional guidance if scattering of ashes is to be included in the ceremony.
The sharing of food and drink is an integral part of the Memorial process providing mourners a time to reflect and bond.
Light refreshments are usually served after a farewell ceremony whether family and friends return to a family home, go to a restaurant, use a catering service or self-cater.
The emotional and social support provided at the wake is important, especially to those who are grieving the most.