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Welcome to The Celebrants Network Inc.

 - the progressive national celebrant association -

Promoting civil ceremonies and celebrations for everyone

The Celebrants Network Inc members are marriage celebrants; memorial and funeral celebrants; family and naming celebrants, celebrants for all occasions.

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Latest Blog Posts

Sonia Collins
18 November 2021
In 2023 we will be celebrating 50 years of a civil celebrant program in Australia.  In today’s blog celebrant Sonia Collins gives a brief history of the program as part of our celebrations for World Celebrants Week 2021....
Melanie Lawson
11 November 2021
It is very easy to get overwhelmed during your wedding planning, so the first thing you need to decide is are you having a wedding or are you gettng married?  Celebrant Melanie Lawson from Oberon, NSW explains why your wedding isn't a competitio...
Shell Brown
04 November 2021
We've come a long way since filling out forms with old fahioned paper and pen.  There are new rules, new technologies and a new way of doing things.  Celebrant Shell Brown takes us through what we, as celebrants, can and can not do electron...

Top Marriage Tips

Since 1973, Dr. John Gottman has studied what he calls the 'masters and disasters' of marriage.

Members of the general public took part in long-term studies, and Dr. Gottman learned what makes marriages fail, what makes them succeed, and what can make marriages a source of great meaning.

By examining partners’ heart rates, facial expressions, and how they talk about their relationship to each other and to other people, Dr. Gottman claims he is able to predict with more than 90% accuracy which couples will make it, and which will not.

What marriage and relationship advice does Dr. Gottman have to offer?

Below are some of his top suggestions for how to keep your marriage strong:

  • Have high standards.

    Happy couples have high standards for each other even as newlyweds. The most successful couples are those who, even as newlyweds, refused to accept hurtful behaviour from one another. The lower the level of tolerance for bad behaviour in the beginning of a relationship, the happier the couple is down the road.
  • Focus on the bright side.

    In a happy marriage, while discussing problems, couples make at least five times as many positive statements to and about each other and their relationship as negative ones.  For example, "We laugh a lot;" not, "We never have any fun".  A good marriage must have a rich climate of positivity. Make deposits to your emotional bank account.
  • Accept influence.

    A marriage succeeds to the extent that the husband can accept influence from his wife. If a woman says, "Do you have to work Thursday night? My mother is coming that weekend, and I need your help getting ready," and her husband replies, "My plans are set, and I'm not changing them". This guy is in a shaky marriage.

    A husband's ability to be influenced by his wife (rather than vice-versa) is crucial because research shows women are already well practiced at accepting influence from men, and a true partnership only occurs when a husband can do so as well.
  • Edit yourself.

    Couples who avoid saying every critical thought when discussing touchy topics are consistently the happiest.
  • Soften your "start up."

    Arguments first "start up" because a spouse sometimes escalates the conflict from the get-go by making a critical or contemptuous.
  • Edit yourself.

    Couples who avoid saying every critical thought when discussing touchy topics are consistently the happiest.
  • Learn to repair and exit the argument.

    Successful couples know how to exit an argument. Happy couples know how to repair the situation before an argument gets completely out of control.

    Successful repair attempts include: changing the topic to something completely unrelated; using humour; stroking your partner with a caring remark ("I understand that this is hard for you"); making it clear you're on common ground ("This is our problem"); backing down (in marriage, as in the martial art Aikido, you have to yield to win); and, in general, offering signs of appreciation for your partner and his or her feelings along the way ("I really appreciate and want to thank you for.…").

    If an argument gets too heated, take a 20-minute break, and agree to approach the topic again when you are both calm.

  • Seek help early.

    The average couple waits six years before seeking help for marital problems (and keep in mind, half of all marriages that end do so in the first seven years). This means the average couple lives with unhappiness for far too long.

Copyright 2004 The Gottman Institute, Inc.

Book: The Relationship Cure by Dr. John Gottman and Joan deClaire

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