Civil funeral celebrants are a popular alternative today and contrary to some beliefs are often happy to include religious components to the ceremony. The role of the Celebrant is to work with individuals and families to create and conduct a ceremony appropriate to the person; it is important to spend time with them to makes sure you are clear about what they want and that you can provide it for them...
Often people are not sure what they or their family member would have liked as they never had the conversation, particularly with sudden deaths this is when your role as Celebrant is really important.
The type of ceremony may be in keeping with any cultural traditions, religious, or spiritual beliefs. The ceremony should attempt to address all the relevant aspects of the individual. It can be important for close people to have input and to be involved, to create the best possible and most beneficial experience.
Some of the inclusions for the ceremony may be a dress code, colourful or stylised, a eulogy, spoken tributes or memories (serious and humorous), poetry, readings and music.
Choosing the music can be a great starting point.
Families may also want to connect to people who can’t be there in person by live-streaming the funeral, recording the ceremony or taking photos.
Increasingly, family members and friends of the person who has died, adults and children, actively participate in the funeral services. For example, they may wish to light a candle, share memories, read a eulogy, lay flowers on a coffin, play music, blow bubbles.
This requires flexibility, not only in terms of physical space, but also when it comes to the duration of a funeral service. It’s hard to predict how much time people will need to celebrate a life, say goodbye and let go. Time slots at crematoria are generally 20 – 40 minutes so it may be appropriate to hold a ceremony outside of the crematorium or to continue the celebration at a wake.
Funerals assist people in their acceptance of their loss and in saying goodbye to and letting go of the physical body as it is buried or cremated. A good ceremony can contribute to the feelings of healing for the bereaved. A bad or unsatisfying one can compound sadness or grief and make the situation for the bereaved even more distressing.
People do not die for us immediately but remain bathed in a sort of aura of life which bears no relation to true immortality but through which they continue to occupy our thoughts in the same way as when they were alive.
It is as though they were traveling abroad. ~Marcel Proust
You can find your local TCN Funeral Celebrant to help you arrange the perfect farewell for your loved one.