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I'm Getting Married!... Now What?
Why are you getting married?
Have a think about it. What does it meant to you? How will your lives change by being married? What are you and your partner's expectations of what your married life will look like? Have you considered a pre-marriage education program to make sure you're both on the same page? This information will help you when it comes time to write those all important personal vows.
Who is going to be your marriage celebrant?
(only the most important decision that you'll make throughout the whole getting married process - no pressure)
There are a number of reasons why couples choose their marriage celebrant - personality, suitability, availability, price and value for money. Make sure you choose someone who you feel comfortable with and who you feel sure will deliver the style of ceremony that you want. Your chosen celebrant can help you to fill in all the necessary paperwork, such as the Notice of Intended Marriage (NOIM). This is an important form that needs to be completed and given to your celebrant no later than one full month and no earlier than 18 months before your ceremony. They can also design a ceremony that is personalised, meaningful and memorable.
Are there children that you’d like to include? Do you want to have a bridal party where you choose bridesmaids and best men, flower girls and page boys or perhaps you don't want to have any attendants at all. You might prefer to have just you and your partner and your two witnesses? Do you want your father or a family member to give you away? What about asking Aunty Sarah to write one of her special poems? Are there other friends or family with special talents that you'd like to include? Do you have a friend who could play live music as you walk into your ceremony?
What other professionals will you be hiring?
What are you going to wear?
Do you need to hire a Wedding Planner or a 'Day-of Coordinator'? Delegate jobs where you can and try not to micro-manage those who are offering their help. Run through the day step by step to try an anticipate where you might need to make some changes ie: the ceremony location has steps and Granddad is in a wheelchair... have a running sheet for the day and give a copy to those who might need it ie: your celebrant, MC, reception coordinator, photographer, caterer, Dj or musician.
Have Plan A and Plan B. Some people over plan, over think things and that can be as bad as not planning. This is a great article, it sets out what needs thinking about. Marriage, relationship, commitment. It is very important to realise a marriage is the coming together of two families. Something I failed to realise the significance of and it plagued me
for many years. Girls, listen to your mother.